Dealing with the messy, painful emotions of a breakup or divorce is the worst.

Your relationship is over but the thoughts and emotions around

your ex-partner are constant.

Don't let them keep you stuck from moving on.

Watch to learn how this programme will help you!

Dear heartbroken soul, do you recognise yourself?

Ruminating over the things your partner did or is still doing

Looking for closure because you don't understand why your relationship ended

Longing for or missing your ex when you feel lonely

Obsessing because your ex has moved on to a new relationship

Becoming fixated on your ex-partner's unreasonable behaviour, attitude, plans or agenda

Getting drawn into drama and conflict with your ex

Feeling confused about whether you can be friends with your ex

Feeling anxious, frustrated or powerless about things from the break-up which are out of your control

You are not alone in feeling like this, but it's time to start breaking these patterns by shifting your focus back onto YOU.

In 30 days I can help you:


What will I learn?

You will learn that the most effective way to start moving on is to take your focus away from what is out of your control and place it on the things you can control.

But most importantly you will learn how to shift your thinking.

Over 30 days you will build a toolkit of self-care strategies which focus your life back onto YOU.

Here's what you get!

30 Daily Video Tutorials

Each day during a short but helpful video, I talk you through a different process which gets you to focus on yourself.

Worksheet Support

You will get the results when you put the concepts into practise!

Downloadable PDF worksheets will support you to use the strategies.

Bonus Videos Included!

My popular 5 day "Declutter To Feel Better" Challenge.

EFT (tapping) exercise I use with my 1:1 coaching clients.

3 Part Video Series "What To Do When You're Not Moving Forward"

How will it the programme help me?

Stop Focusing On Your Ex isn't just about distraction from your thoughts.

Fixating on the things you can't change simply sends you spiraling into anxiety, frustration or a feeling of helplessness around your situation. The steps in this programme are designed to help you alleviate these feelings in positive, empowered ways.

Below is just a small sample of how you will make those changes over 30 days!

Your Sphere Of Influence

You will learn to put your focus on the things you can control, instead of those you can't


Learn why decluttering can be healing and how to do it

Goal Setting

Start to put your focus on the future and learn to set goal in a constructive way

The Power Of Words

Use these strategies to help you focus on what you want from life

The Right Support

Not all support is good after a break-up. Learn where to reach out

Create A Gratitude Habit

Learn how this simple but powerful tool increases your break-up well-being


~How to break bad habits

~Getting out of your comfort zone

~The importance of boundaries

~Creating positive new routines that work for you

~Trusting your intuition

And lots more....!

Why Learn From Me?

Hi, I'm Marissa Walter, creator of Break Up and Shine

I am passionate about supporting you to move through this painful stressful time, to live your best life!

I'm a qualified counsellor specialising in relationship issues and supporting people to heal and shift their perspective on their break-up.

Since 2011, following my divorce, I have been writing on the subject of transformation after break -up on my blog. I have written the books: Break Up and Shine and 30 Days of Breakup Healing, as well as being published on Tiny Buddha, Thrive Global, The Counselling Directory.

I run free online support for people just like you who are looking to move on from the pain of divorce into a happier more meaningful life.

Why do I do what I do? Because my divorce became my catalyst for a better life and I deeply care about helping you to succeed too.

Below are some of the beautiful things people have said about my programmes and work

Stop Focusing On Your Ex 30 Day programme is Free!

You'll Receive Instant Access To All of This!

30 Daily Video Lessons To Shift Your Thinking and Mindset

Bonus Video Series on Break-Up Decluttering

Bonus Video Series to help with emotional setbacks

Mini Workshop on EFT tapping for emotions

Mini Workshop on Shifting Perspective

Downloadable Supporting Worksheets

Unlimited Access To Programme

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